My husband says again that he wants a divorce, he won't try counseling.

Ok so my husband and I have had a lot of issues the past 8 months. We've had a lot of ups and downs which some of which I thought we were past. He would jump down my throat for dwelling on the past but yet he was doing the same in another way. He was dwelling on the fights and believes that this marriage isn't salvageable. I think it is if we would go to counseling. He says that counseling won't work and that he wants a divorce. I have been staying with my mother and he keeps the kids with him willingly. I found out today that he is more concerned about how he feels about himself. He says he hates himself because he can never make anyone happy (i.e me, or his family- they don't spend time with him). This is his exact words: "I’m sorry. I want to be alone. I have come to the realization that I hate myself when I can’t make other people happy. So to avoid that, I need to be alone. I don’t want counseling. I’m sorry gin. This is where I want to be." I don't want him to feel this way, I want him to be happy. I know being alone will only depress him more and it's why I think he should go to counseling. I want him to love himself again and accept the love I have for him. I know I can't make him go but how do I deal with this heartache I have from him wanting to get a divorce when I feel like things can get better if we went to counseling. I feel like I am failing if I don't at least try to make it work even though it's him that doesn't want it. How do I live with this decision of his? I feel helpless because I don't want it. I wish he would understand how much I love him and just try. I want to help him but he won't let me. How do I handle feeling so helpless?